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A Reader of Fictions: Review + Giveaway: Losing It

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Tuesday, May 7, 2013

Review + Giveaway: Losing It

Losing It
Losing It, Book 1

Author: Cora Carmack
Pages: 288
Publisher: William Morrow
Source: YA Books Central for review

Description from Goodreads:
Virginity.

Bliss Edwards is about to graduate from college and still has hers. Sick of being the only virgin among her friends, she decides the best way to deal with the problem is to lose it as quickly and simply as possible-- a one-night stand. But her plan turns out to be anything but simple when she freaks out and leaves a gorgeous guy alone and naked in her bed with an excuse that no one with half-a-brain would ever believe. And as if that weren’t embarrassing enough, when she arrives for her first class of her last college semester, she recognizes her new theatre professor. She’d left him naked in her bed about 8 hours earlier.


First Sentence: "I took a deep breath."

Review:
Of all of the New Adult-labeled books I've read, Losing It is the one that comes closest to being what I ideally want. Though the focus remains on romance, Losing It does actually deal with normal, everyday college stresses. Bliss goes to class and thinks about her future. She has fights with friends and doesn't go through anything incredibly melodramatic. Only the relationship with her professor isn't something an average college student might experience, but even that does happen. Losing It is humorous, romantic, and largely realistic.

The term slut-shaming gets tossed around a lot in book reviews, and it's certainly a big problem in fiction, which tends to really uphold virgins as the ideal. For those who object to the word 'slut,' I'm warning you that you will likely be offended by a handful of moments in Losing It. However, something that I've not really seen in fiction before and that Carmack handled perfectly is virgin-shaming, which is just as real.

Bliss Edwards is in her senior year of college, age 22, and a virgin. The book opens with Bliss' confession to her best female friend, Kelsey, that she's never had sex. Bliss feels embarrassed and stunted for not having had this experience that most people her age have had. Now, as much as slut-shaming is a serious issue in our culture, Americans are just as uncomfortable with virgins. At a certain point, admitting you've not had sex marks you out as a freak. Around the end of college, somewhere from 20-22, being a virgin begins to feel like an onus one bears. People start making assumptions that you've incorrectly identified your sexuality (perhaps you're gay and afraid to admit it or asexual) or that you must have something terribly wrong with you. I know I feel this stigma in my own life.

Carmack completely captures the feeling of being behind the curve on this, and how an attractive, social girl with a sex drive could put sex off. The way Bliss thinks about things and explains her lack of sex life are completely accurate to my own experience. In theory, sex is great, but the idea of actually having to have it is terrifying, because she likes to be in control of everything she does. She worries, too, about her lack of experience compared to others her age. Surely if she has sex now she'll be terrible at it, a thought horrible to contemplate. She also references being able to shut down her analytical, judgmental brain, which has always thrown her out of the mood. All of this is exactly how my own brain works, and I've spoken with friends who think the exact same way.

At the beginning of Losing It, Bliss has decided she's sick of feeling a freak for being a virgin and that she just wants to get rid of her virginity. This impulse, as well, is one that I completely understand. Sometimes it feels like life would be much easier if you could just get that over with, like it's an ordeal to be got through, which really doesn't seem like the ideal motivation for having sex. Still, that's a realistic thought for Bliss to have.

When you're a virgin over twenty for reasons that don't involve waiting for marriage, people like to tell you that "it will happen for you when you meet the right guy." Find him and your brain will shut up, and you'll be motivated enough to work through your issues and eventually have sex. This is the basic premise that Losing It is working from. I do take some issue with the fact that she goes out to a bar once and immediately picks up a hot, British guy, because life is never that easy, at least mine isn't, in which case I would like to upgrade my life now please. However, this is fiction, and such conveniences are what move a plot forward, so I'll accept it.

What I'm so, so grateful for is that, even though Bliss has found the perfect guy who makes her brain shut off, that doesn't immediately make her ready. Garrick may be more than she ever dreamed of, and she feels more comfortable with him than with anyone who has come before, but she still freezes at the prospect of sex. Her issues don't just magically dissipate, like generally happens in fiction. Though she had every intention of having a one-night stand, her brain really isn't wired that way to let her do that, thus why she was still a virgin in the first place.

Of course, for drama's sake, Garrick turns out to be a temporary professor for one of her theater classes. This serves to raise the stakes and create many awkward moments. For a teacher/student relationship, Carmack's done a good job, and I was still able to root for them, since they established a relationship of sorts before he started teaching, but I still would have preferred they wait to really get together until after the semester was over. Teacher/student romances are not my favorite, because the teacher has power over the student and favoritism comes into question. Carmack avoids the grading favoritism question, but Garrick does seem to be largely fair in his treatment of her as a teacher.

I liked, too, the short-lived love triangle that emerges when Bliss realizes that one of her best friends has a crush on her. I've been in this situation before too (well, the friend with a crush, not the sexy British part that makes the triangle), and it is seriously awkward. There are so many feelings in the way that it can be hard to tell precisely how you feel about you're friend. You love them already, but is it the right sort of love? And they're so wonderful that you feel bad turning them down. Plus, what will happen to your friendship if you do or don't? Bliss handles this about as well as can be expected, which is to say that it's messy and uncomfortable.

Garrick and Bliss do seem to fall for one another a bit too quickly, but that's college as well. Every emotion seems heightened, because you have so much free time to spend with people. Friendships and relationships come on quickly in those circumstances. The novel takes place over the course of a semester, so their relationship does take months to grow, even if it feels shorter because of the novel's brief duration.

I do wish, however, that Carmack has skipped the epilogue. Though I was willing to accept the speed and seriousness of their relationship, I feel like the events in the epilogue were over the top. Plus, I'm really unsure as to why it had to be from Garrick's POV. That felt really out of place, and didn't really add anything to the scene.

I have to reward Losing It high points for covering subject matter I've rarely seen touched in fiction and for giving me many feels. Carmack's debut is funny, awkward, sexy, and romantic. If you've been disappointed in the New Adult offerings thus far for not having anything actually to do with the experience of being in college, then you really might want to try Losing It.

Rating: 4.5/5

Favorite Quote: "How can people decide who they want to spend the rest of their life with at this age? I can't even decide what to have for dinner! I couldn't decide if I wanted to be an actor, even though I already had $35,000 in student loans telling me I sure as hell better want to be an actor."

Giveaway:
My new giveaway philosophy is to give away only my very favorite reads, so I'm offering up a paperback of Losing It to one of my readers. This contest is open internationally, so long as The Book Depository ships to your country.

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49 Comments:

Blogger Janhvi said...

Losing It has a nice cover! Thanks for your review and giveaway :)

May 7, 2013 at 8:12 AM  
Blogger Estelle said...

I read this one before the holidays, and I enjoyed it but I didn't love it. I still didn't understand why her best friend had to "solve this problem" for her. I just read TRUE by Erin McCarthy and I found myself thinking of Losing It quite a bit. You do bring up a good point... even though loss of virginity is "the goal" both characters wait until they are ready. I still felt like this story had a bit too much happenstance and was kind of thin, but it was extremely fast paced and I love a British guy! (I wish I could have heard his accent!) Plus it was set in Austin, even better!

May 7, 2013 at 9:02 AM  
Blogger Lynsey Newton said...

I really enjoyed this book and I LOVE this review :)

May 7, 2013 at 9:09 AM  
Blogger Jenni @ Alluring Reads said...

I need to get to this one very soon! Slut shaming doesn't really bother me so that's not an issue but I am very curious about the virginity issue. I don't see why it should be seen as weird to be a virgin at any age, but I know that some people look at it very differently. It sounds like in the end, with the epilogue and such, this turns out to be a bit too eyerolley like Beautiful Disaster was for me, I really wish that book had ended at the halfway mark. Great review!

May 7, 2013 at 9:11 AM  
Blogger Christina said...

Ha, see, I totally get it, because I've had several female friends want to solve my problem. Seriously, when people know, they just want to get you laid one way or another, even good friends who know you well secretly think that would help you unwind. Just get it over with. Bliss' experience is pretty accurate to what I've experienced, only with the admittedly unrealistic happenstance of finding a hot British guy who's super attracted to her the first time she goes out man-hunting.

May 7, 2013 at 9:14 AM  
Blogger Christina said...

Thanks, Lynsey!

May 7, 2013 at 9:14 AM  
Blogger Rachelia said...

I wasn't really interested in this book before, but you've convinced me to give it a try Christina. I like how it addresses virgin shaming as well, as that usually isn't discussed. I can relate to that, as I am a 22 year old version (never really even been kissed!) and the reaction from people if they don't think that is weird are : are you gay, are you a prude, etc. Or they want to "help you" get out of your comfort zone & find a guy (ugh had this happen in a foreign country with my travelling partner while I was studying abroad - I was not happy!). It's definitely an interesting topic & really illustrates the confines society puts on female sexuality: shamed & damned if you do & don't.

May 7, 2013 at 9:18 AM  
Blogger Rachelia said...

Also, I have a thing against epilogues (but I still read them ugh). They always feel weird & unnecessary & more than once have ruined my feelings for a book.

May 7, 2013 at 9:20 AM  
Blogger Christina said...

Ha, you know I'm not super sensitive to slut-shaming. If I think it's the overarching theme of the novel, then, yes, I will be disgusted and enraged, but I don't mind if the terms "slut" or "ho" or whatever are thrown around as part of the lingo, so long as they're only used as jokes, though I get why it upsets others. I have friends who talk like that, and it doesn't bother me because it's how they show affection.

People really do have weird reactions to it, and I try not to tell people for the most part. And, yeah, I would unread the epilogue if I could. Haha.

May 7, 2013 at 9:20 AM  
Blogger Christina said...

Someone who understands! Yes, one of the commenters above couldn't believe that Bliss' best friend would try to push her to go ahead and have sex, but that's so realistic. That doesn't make them terrible people; they just don't get how your brain works, and truly think it's in your best interest. I had that experience just last month. I just don't have it in me to screw around casually, because of how my brain works, and I haven't met anyone I care about yet, so what can you do?

Epilogues occasionally are just what I want, but most of them are awful and tie things up in too neat of a bow. I like HEAs, but it's almost better if it's a bit open and I can imagine where things go from there.

May 7, 2013 at 9:23 AM  
Blogger Gaby S said...

I'm always SO VERY wary of NA for a lot of the same reasons you are (I think we've actually spoken about this before). I want to read about an AUTHENTIC college experience and I think this book sounds like it might be that. Yeah, there are statistics off the chart about 12 year olds having sex but that doesn't mean 22 year old virgins are things of the past. Granted I'm just one person, but I fit the latter category FOR SURE. And that also extends to doing ANYTHING with a guy. It's like you said: The loss of control is crazy scary and it's awkward and uncomfortable and everyone's like: JUST GET IT OVER WITH (including my little sister O.o) but it's a reality of life, and also of college. And yeah, maybe I (or the main character of this book or ANYONE ELSE) might be waiting for the right person, but no (sane) person actually thinks that if you meet the right person it's all magically going to be easy.

But what I think is really important in everything you wrote is that virgin shaming is a thing and it's THE WORST. I mean, it's innate, almost. All of these movies and TV shows make it look like having sex at 15-17 is the norm and if you haven't, you need to get rid of that ASAP, like it's a disease, and if you haven't, you really just shouldn't talk about it because if you do someone's bound to be like: REALLY? With one of those looks of confusion/disbelief/disgust built in. It's almost like cooties. But from not touching boys. And then they talk down to you like you clearly don't understand something or they try to teach you or hook up with some guy like you SHOULD want to get rid of it even though they haven't even asked if you WANT to.

Ugh. And sure, there are the well-meaning friends, but I feel like after all of the negative-ness that comes with admitting to virgin status, I, and a lot of other people I know, would rather just not talk about it. I can't tell you how many times I've skirted around the issue, even with my good friends. Like, how do you even approach the topic that makes everyone in the room shift in their seat? And that's not say everyone's like that. I know people who love to talk about their sex lives - but what do I even have to contribute to that conversation?

Ugh. This all got so totally off topic and personal, but the whole thing makes me all rant-y and I can't help myself. My point, I'm pretty sure, is that I'm excited to read this book now. >.<

May 7, 2013 at 9:37 AM  
Blogger Amy said...

I thought that this book was very fun, romantic, and hilariously awkward. Bliss reminded me of myself a bit in how awkward she was in certain situations. This book definitely hit the mark for me. I had read some NA before this one, but I really, really enjoyed this one. I liked that there wasn't any over extreme drama or major issues either like a lot of them have. Fabulous review babe!!

May 7, 2013 at 9:42 AM  
Blogger Christina said...

Well, Losing It doesn't quite go as much into the college experience as I would like, but there's way more focus on college courses and life-planning than in the others I've read, even Easy. During the course of the book, Bliss is trying to decide between stage managing and acting as careers, which is the sort of thing one faces as college ends: what to do with all the knowledge you've earned.

Ha, I'm 25 now, and hitting that age, my mid-twenties (ACK!), I've gotten even more concerned about it. I've made out with a few guys, but I don't know. It's never been what pop culture lead me to believe. I've never been sure, and I have to hope that one day I'll meet someone who changes everything for me. I do hate the loss of control, and of not knowing whether I'm doing things properly. There's so much trust involved, both of the other person and myself. To let them in physically, I would need to let them in emotionally first, because otherwise I just don't see the point of all of it, and I have a lot of trouble doing that. And, yes, people really do want you to get it over with. Multiple people have tried to shove me at some guy so I can make things happen, and I'm like dudes no. They're well-intentioned, but that's just not how I operate. I loved that in Losing It, even though she easily found the right guy, she still wasn't immediately ready. It's not just about the guy.

Either it's weird to be a virgin past say 18-20 OR virgins are upheld as this ideal, and I feel like that's just as creepy and uncool. Like guys who look for virgins specifically? Um. No. Oh, and in the book, Bliss was terrified to tell him, and I was like YES, because it's such an awkward conversation to have, and some people are basically grossed out by it. Right. And I do get where they're coming from by trying to push me to get it over with, and part of me would like to just be done with it, so I can stress less, but I don't have it in me. If I did, I wouldn't still be a virgin in the first place, you know? It's not like we couldn't have found some guy to have sex with if we'd wanted to.

Oh yeah, I try to skirt around the issue with people I don't know well, and I was really on the fence about whether to post this. I consulted with a couple of good blogging friends before I did, to see if they felt like it would be a weird thing to admit. I felt like I had to to explain why this book meant so much to me; Bliss' way of thinking about sex so matches up with my own and I have literally never found that in a book before. Ha, my best friend from high school is basically the complete opposite from me and she'll tell me everything about her sexual experiences. I don't have much to contribute to the conversation, and she does sort of wish I would just get it over with, but I have to be me.

You are welcome to rant anytime! I'm glad to find people who understand!

May 7, 2013 at 9:52 AM  
Blogger Christina said...

Ha, seriously, I loved when she cried out CATS to put a stop to things. Like, it made sense in her brain but was so off the wall and weird outside of her head. And, yes, it was awesome that they didn't have anything super serious going on, just largely normal problems for people to have.

May 7, 2013 at 10:04 AM  
OpenID Danielle said...

Just stopping by to say again how much I loved this review, it's a tough world when everyone wants you to cash in your V card or get a boyfriend. I was out on saturday night and at least two hours were devoted to my friends saying "why are you still single?". I appreciate their well meaning intentions but at the same time, make me feel inept! I'm looking forward to reading this one next month along with faking it. I'm glad the issue is handled with some sensitivity but I really wish the virgin shaming would stop and people realise it's none of their business!

May 7, 2013 at 10:10 AM  
Blogger Christina said...

It's so lovely to realize there are more of us than I thought. We're not virgins because we're gross and unlovable, but because we have different standards for romance and when we feel comfortable enough with someone to go there. Until we find someone that makes us feel motivated enough, it's probably not going to change, no matter how much we're pushed. Actually, with how contrary I am, probably the reverse. Haha. Thanks for stopping by!

May 7, 2013 at 10:12 AM  
Blogger Maja (The Nocturnal Library) said...

Western Europeans aren't any more comfortable with virgins, I'm afraid. Kids are under so much pressure, it worries me a bit, especially when I start thinking that my own kid will be 16 in 10 years, and the pressure only going to get worse.
I don't know how I'd feel about the love triangle involving a friend, but otherwise this sounds like a wonderful read.

May 7, 2013 at 10:23 AM  
Blogger Christina said...

Oh dear. I know Europeans are generally more open to sexual things, but I suppose that could make being a virgin even weirder than a more repressed culture. The love triangle I probably could have done without, but it was handled fairly well.

May 7, 2013 at 10:25 AM  
Blogger Dana said...

I've had this one on my TBR because I wanted to see how the author handles the virginity issue. My personal experience in my 20s was that I was WORSE than all the people running around having meaningless sex with people that they didn't really know but much less want to be with. That's so beyond odd to me that I can't even explain it. They have the right to choose to have lots of sex but I don't have the right to choose not to? Umm, weird. Excellent review. I definitely want to read this one more now.

May 7, 2013 at 10:36 AM  
Blogger Kristin said...

Great review and I love the quote. I think my favorite part was the whole "cat" scenario.

May 7, 2013 at 10:38 AM  
Blogger Christina said...

Very, very true. Everyone needs to live the way that's right for them. And if that's random hookups, bully for you as long as you're safe. If it's remaining a virgin until such a time as you find someone you want to have sex with, good for you too!

May 7, 2013 at 10:50 AM  
Blogger Christina said...

Haha, I was of two minds about the cat scenario, but mostly it was hilarious.

May 7, 2013 at 10:51 AM  
Blogger Gaby S said...

I definitely don't think this is a weird thing to admit. You identify with the book and that's GREAT. I'm glad you shared because it totally inspired my first (and now second) comment novel.

I actually have a really good friend I went to both high school and college with and we don't talk about any of this, but I know she goes out to clubs, gets drunk and makes out with strangers for fun. Before I graduated in December, I turned to her and said, "Okay, take me clubbing, let's do this." She was all, "Really?" and I was like, "SURE WHY NOT?" Then she said, "What are the chances of me getting you to make out with a stranger?" I didn't even say anything, just made a face. So she said, "I had to try." But I don't know why she had to try. I mean, why would I suddenly start doing that at age 23? Also, how would that even go down? She'd ply me with drinks until I was drunk enough for her toss at a stranger? Would she be my wing-woman?

I know people do this kind of stuff and have one night stands and whatever else, but I can't even understand the mechanics/logic/reason of it all. I mean, some people might think being a virgin at 23 or having friends who pressure sex are things that don't happen but if my brain ran the world, one night stands wouldn't exist. My brain just can't understand how that would go down in real time (again, I'm aware it happens, but there's no way my head could process that well enough to let it be a reality for myself).

Also, if you ever meet a guy who specifically looks for virgins, RUN THE OTHER WAY. Best case scenario: he's a very, very strange man. Worst case scenario: virgin sacrifice. But to have that conversation with a guy you're interested in is a tough conversation. I mean, my status in all of this is well known among my friends (they know what I do in my spare time and it's not really a secret in general), but to talk about it with a potential significant other is something else ENTIRELY.

May 7, 2013 at 11:47 AM  
Blogger Christina said...

Hahaha, I love comment novels, and actually having bookish (well, inspired by a book anyway in this case) discussions.

Oh man, my bff from high school is all about clubbing, so I get dragged along a couple times a year. I just can't do it. Even if I meet a cute guy that seems legit, I'm still sort of skeeved out that I met him in a club. It's just so artificial and what do I really know about this guy? Bahaha, I just a picture of her hurling you at a big group of men like a bouquet at a wedding. Um, no. I mean, if I met someone I liked a lot, a bit of alcohol might be helpful to get me to not stress quite so much, but, if you have to be completely trashed to do something, you probably shouldn't be doing it.

I've got friends who do that sort of stuff, and I support them so long as they're careful and it doesn't hurt their self-esteem. If one night stands make you happy, then good for you. However, yeah, I really don't see the point of it. There are so many possible negative consequences from that (disease, baby, that they turn out to be a creeper, connecting emotionally to someone who's not interested, etc.), and I just do not see that the reward can be worth the risk, especially since a first time is probably going to be monumentally awkward even if it's not painful. Also, I doubt I would be comfortable enough to go get in some random guy's house or go to his house, and I certainly wouldn't want him in mine, so where would this go down? The bathroom at the clerb? No. I don't think so.

Oh yeah. I would DEFINITELY run away. I mean, what a freaking creep. The amount of sex the other person has had shouldn't be a serious factor in choosing a partner unless they've been unsafe. I'd probably rather the guy be slightly uncomfortable with my virginity than really turned on by it. Or just not to care. That would be ideal. Haha.

May 7, 2013 at 12:01 PM  
Blogger Ashton Kessler said...

You always write such thoughtful reviews, and I think I might actually have to give this book a shot.

May 7, 2013 at 12:03 PM  
Blogger Christina said...

Awww, thank you so much. I appreciate the compliment. *blushes*

May 7, 2013 at 12:05 PM  
Blogger Gaby S said...

The truth is, when I was 16 this girl I used to be friends with told me that no guy I met ever would be a prude like I was/am (AT 16. NOT 22. 16). Like, from that point forward, I would never really meet a guy who 'd never kissed a girl before. I was like: 1. That actually doesn't matter to me as long as they're okay with me not being experience. 2. YEAH THAT'S GOOD BECAUSE ONE OF US SHOULD KNOW WHAT THE HELL THEY'RE DOING. 3. Go away.

I've also had people tell me that guys will be more hesitant to want to get involved with me if I'm inexperienced. Which I think is the only reason I'd want to "just get it over with." But that's not even a good reason, because I'll know if he's a good (the right?) guy if he's willing to be patient with me with all of that.

I dunno. I totally live my life by the whole "you do what you want, I'll do what I want" thing. Like, look, don't hurt yourself, but you don't run my life and I don't run yours. If I don't want to talk about this (whether with YOU in particular or in general), so be it. Otherwise, I've made my virginal bed and now I'll sleep in it, thanks so much.

May 7, 2013 at 12:14 PM  
Blogger Jamie said...

Definitely want to give this one a try! So interesting to see an author actually explore this. Everyone pretty much assumes that nobody is a virgin by the time they hit 20 and I hate it. I probably am not going to get too personal on the comments (but would def converse with you about it) but I will just say that I was looked at like a fucking unicorn for being a virgin for a long, long time. I felt so embarrassed because my sister would like TELL her guy friends and just like random people...and she was younger than me. I just didn't understand why it was something to share with others at all. People have their reasons for not having sex and they should be respected and not treated like freaks. Thanks for sharing, Christina! We had a very personal discussion about this amongst 2 of the club girls and I and it was very refreshing tbh. I shared things that I really didn't tell anyone re: sex.

May 7, 2013 at 12:29 PM  
Blogger Christina said...

During my freshman year of college, when I was 17, I was told by a supposed friend that I would die an old lady with cats because I was too particular. No joke. and 17 year old me wasn't nearly so particular as 25 year old me is, so I can only imagine what she would say now. I even have a cat. I don't know if I know any guys who haven't kissed girls, but I do know at least one who's a virgin and proud of it, though he has every intention of waiting for marriage, which isn't my deal. A little experience can only help, because I hate awkwardness, and it's going to be anyway, so if they know what's up that can only help. (unintentional dick pun)

I've wondered that myself, and, honestly, what can you do. I don't think there's anything wrong with having casual sex, but I don't think I could ever do it, and I doubt I could respect myself if I got myself to do it against my will. A good guy won't hate you for that, though I think it really does scare a lot of guys off, because they know you won't be easy. But with my personality, that should be pretty obvious from the beginning anyway. Ha.

Exactly. As long as your behavior doesn't harm anyone else (and preferably doesn't harm you either), go for it. Bahaha, I do love sleeping. It's pretty great. And at least our virginal sheets are all nice and clean.

May 7, 2013 at 12:37 PM  
Blogger Christina said...

Ha, feel free to gchat me or DM me anytime, Jamie! Oh my goodness. I would NOT be okay with that. Even if you're okay with it, she does not need to be telling random people about your sexual history or lack thereof. Let's respect everyone for making up their own minds and respect their ability to decide what works for them!

May 7, 2013 at 1:12 PM  
Blogger Heather said...

I definitely need to read this, as it sounds really realistic! It's pretty awesome that you were able to put all of that out there, as I know it wasn't easy :)

May 7, 2013 at 1:29 PM  
Blogger Christina said...

Minus the perfect guy/professor relationship, I would say that it is. Yeah, so far everyone's been super cool too. Yay!

May 7, 2013 at 2:24 PM  
Blogger Gaby S said...

It's funny because I have a couple of guy friends who respect me for my virgin/prude status (I don't see prude a derogatory term. It's just fact/the best way I can think of to say it without getting absurd about it). I don't know if they'd date me, but they respect me, so that's a good thing, right?

But yeah, I don't think I could ever actually have casual sex. Or even casually do other stuff with a guy. I've very control-oriented, I don't see the point and I'm a very emotional person. But none of these things are secrets, so I'm not concerned that I'll be misleading anyone, which I suppose is a good thing.

And yeah. Sleeping is great. I love it. A lot. Especially when clean sheets are involved.

May 7, 2013 at 2:44 PM  
Blogger Christina said...

I do see prude as somewhat derogatory, but I think that's because I don't just see that as behavior. However, it's not a huge deal to me to be called a prude. Haha, well, would you want to date them? If not, then it's definitely good not having to deal with that awkwardness.

That phrase "I don't see the point" is one I use all the time, and most of my friends don't get it. They're like "the point is pleasure." That just is not how my brain works, especially since I imagine the awkwardness would outweight that.

May 7, 2013 at 4:23 PM  
Blogger LisaFicTalk said...

Probably one of the most thoughtful reviews of this book that I've read to date. I've also personally seen how in this day and age people are considered weird or a freak because they're still a virgin even into the 20's. I think it's sad. Why is it anyone's business anyway whether you are or aren't. I've had conversations with people who will dismiss your opinion when it comes to something of a sexual nature if you've made it known that you have never had sex, which I think is ridiculous. That's like saying you have no clue about kids because you don't have any. It's like your opinion-and you, essentially-don't matter.

I am now actually moving this up on my TBR-list thanks to your review, Christina!

May 7, 2013 at 4:50 PM  
Blogger Christina said...

Awesome! I hope you like it if you do read it. I know it's not as strong of a novel for most people, and I debated going for a 4, but I loved it, so it got the higher rating.

Anyway, yeah, I haven't really heard that, but I'm not surprised. Most of my friends know and are aware that I can still offer perspective, even if it's not from an experiential place. I mean, I've never been in a serious relationship, but I can still have good advice about relationships. An outside view can be helpful.

May 7, 2013 at 4:53 PM  
Blogger Renae M. said...

I was so not going to read this, because I thought it would be all “virgins are sad pathetic creatures who should try their hardest to validate themselves by finding some hot penis and THEN they can be a real woman”, which is seriously offensive and WRONG and bad bad bad. (I've seen multiple stories out there like that, though, that act like being a virgin is the worst thing ever and the only way to be a "real woman" is to have sex. Right. Because a guys penis validates my life.) So I’m glad this is not a book like that, in the end. I might possibly be tempted to read this now. Maybe.

May 7, 2013 at 6:27 PM  
Blogger Amanda said...

Hmm you bring up some really interesting points in this review. The cover makes it look so cheesy, but perhaps there really are substantial aspects to this story. I haven't read really any college-setting books (or NA), but it's nice to know that you found this to be a more realistic portrayal of difficulties that college students face besides simply romance. Not sure that this is a book I'd enjoy, but it's great you enjoyed it so much!

May 7, 2013 at 10:10 PM  
Blogger nurmawati djuhawan said...

thx u for the giveaway... i love reading NA books :)

May 8, 2013 at 4:11 AM  
Blogger KatOfDiamonds said...

Interesting plot. I hadn't heard of this title. Thanks :)

May 8, 2013 at 11:11 AM  
Blogger Christina said...

It totally wasn't. I mean, it does ultimately give her the sex because it's a romance novel, but I didn't feel demonized by it. I mean, Bliss isn't against the idea of having sex someday, so it's about getting to the point where you're comfortable, not about having sex just to not be a virgin. You might disagree though. Who knows. Not me. Ever.

May 8, 2013 at 11:13 AM  
Blogger Christina said...

The romance still takes the front seat, but there's a lot more actual college here than usual and I'm so excited about that. This book is a step in the right direction!

May 8, 2013 at 11:20 AM  
Blogger Molli Moran said...

So, I have to confess: I've judged this book prematurely. From the title and cover, plus the synopsis, I assumed it was one of THOSE books, and dismissed it at first. But recently, I've read some great reviews, and yours is definitely thought-provoking, Christina!

I love that you described this as really close to what you'd like to see from New Adult! It makes me happy to know that, despite some points where it's all a bit TOO convenient, that there's more than just the romance. That's really awesome. Plus, Bliss seems like a pretty realistic character, one I think I'll really be able to identify with.

Ugh, slut/virgin shaming. *shakes head* I guess it's a good thing the author deals with the topic though, and it seems like it's done somewhat respectfully after a fashion! Nice review!

Molli | Once Upon a Prologue

May 9, 2013 at 1:27 PM  
Blogger Bea Tejano said...

Thanks for the giveaway!:) I thoroughly enjoyed Losing It :) OH GARRRRICK!<3

May 10, 2013 at 11:52 AM  
Blogger Dragana Mitrovic said...

Yay I am so glad to hear that you enjoyed this one. My review was not very long (I suck at reviewing romance novels) but you highlighted all good points of this book. Losin It reminded me of all the things I liked about college.
BTW I thought epilogue was unnecessary too. ;)

May 11, 2013 at 5:27 AM  
Blogger Lisa Vazquezanzua said...

Love it!!! I really like the story line for this book. I know I can definitely get into this book!! Your review was SO GOOD!! And your "Favorite Quote" is a good one! I started reading the comments above and thanks for getting me hooked on the conversation! lol I'll be 40 in August (omg! can't believe that!! I'm getting OLD LOL) and I WISH that when I was 15 years old that I knew what I know now about waiting for not just the "right guy" but to wait for someone I at least loved and to wait until I was a lot older. For me I think it was more peer pressure to "get it over with". Because all my friends were doing it. I don't think there is anything wrong or embarrassing about say "I'm a Virgin" at all ages. I would totally be proud to say that. I just wish that more girls, of all ages, wouldn't be so embarrassed to say that they are a Virgin.

May 11, 2013 at 6:35 AM  
Blogger Kat Balcombe said...

You've made me rethink my position on this book - I can see how it would resonate with someone that has been through similar experiences as Bliss. Although I objected to the initial part of the book, I could also see her perspective and appreciate the pressure she was under, whether her friends meant it to come across that way or not.

Really goes to show how a book can effect people in different ways!

May 11, 2013 at 6:55 AM  
Blogger Mara said...

Great review! Thanks for the awesome giveaway :))

May 13, 2013 at 12:15 AM  
Blogger Diana said...

The story is very very interesting and I love the cover, thank you for the giveaway!

Demitra Giote

May 13, 2013 at 12:04 PM  

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